Preparing for the holidays: advice for parents to manage stress and navigate family dynamics

  • 13 December 2024

The winter holiday season is a time of celebration and togetherness for many, but it can also bring stress and tension for parents juggling financial pressures, packed schedules, and differing family dynamics. These challenges are often amplified during gatherings that involve extended family members or co-parents with different views on parenting.  By employing practical strategies rooted in the principles of the SFSC: Stronger Relationships programme, parents can navigate these complexities and create a more harmonious holiday.  The holiday season often brings unique challenges that can test family relationships.

Navigating criticism with boundaries

Unsolicited advice or critiques from family members can create tension during gatherings. Responding with calm, respectful phrases such as, “Thank you for sharing; we’ve chosen what works best for us,” can help set boundaries while preserving family harmony.

Fostering cooperation despite differing parenting styles

Differing approaches to parenting can sometimes lead to friction. Parents can benefit from discussing holiday routines, rules, and expectations with co-parents and relatives ahead of time. By focusing on the shared goal of creating positive experiences for the children, they can navigate disagreements constructively.

Breaking patterns of regressive behaviour


Family gatherings can sometimes evoke old habits or dynamics. Practicing self-awareness and employing techniques like pausing, deep breathing, or taking short breaks can help parents stay present and composed during potentially challenging interactions.

Modeling positive interactions

Children are always observing, even during tense moments. When parents demonstrate respectful communication and problem-solving, they teach valuable lessons about managing relationships. Modeling kindness and cooperation reinforces the importance of healthy interactions.

Cultivating inclusion

Holiday gatherings are an opportunity to bring everyone together. Involving children and family members in traditions such as meal preparation or decorating can foster a sense of belonging. Acknowledging and celebrating diverse traditions within the family strengthens bonds and creates lasting memories.

Applying SFSC strategies for stronger relationships

The SFSC Stronger Relationships programme equips parents with tools to navigate conflict and stress, many of which are particularly relevant during the holidays. Techniques like empathetic listening, boundary-setting, and emotional regulation can help parents maintain a calm and positive atmosphere. Applying these strategies strengthens family connections and ensures children feel secure, even during challenging times.

A gift that lasts beyond the holidays

As a reminder, the SFSC Stronger Relationships online programme remains free until March 2025. This valuable resource empowers parents to build healthier co-parenting relationships and reduce conflict for the benefit of their children. Please encourage your friends, family, and communities to take advantage of this opportunity and help more families create lasting, positive change.