Nurturing Positive Communication During Conflict: A Guide for Co-Parents

  • 18 December 2023

We all know that conflicts are a natural part of life, but how we handle them can profoundly impact our relationships with our co-parents and children. At SFSC: Stronger Relationships we focus on empowering and equipping parents. Therefore, in preparation for the holiday season, we’re sharing effective strategies from our SFSC: Stronger Relationships programme aimed at nurturing positive communication during conflicts. 

These insights serve as valuable resources for you to share with parents you work with, which can foster stronger connections and support children’s emotional well-being over what can be a quite intense couple of weeks.

  • Strategies for Active Listening and Expressing Emotions Constructively: Active listening is the foundation of healthy communication. When in conflict, take the time to fully listen to the other person’s words, body language, and emotions. Show that you are engaged by making eye contact and nodding, and seek to understand their perspective fully. Avoid interrupting and wait for your turn to respond respectfully.
  • Expressing emotions constructively is equally important. Instead of using accusatory language like “you,” use “I” or “we” statements to express your feelings. For example, say, “I feel hurt when this happens” or “We are having a problem with this. Can we find a solution together?” By doing so, you create a safe space for open dialogue, without putting blame on anyone.
  • The importance of empathy and understanding in resolving conflicts: Empathy is a powerful tool for resolving conflicts. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, understanding their feelings and perspective. When you show empathy, it promotes a sense of respect and validation, making the other person more willing to find common ground and compromise.

By nurturing positive communication during conflicts, you create an environment where your family can grow together and support each other through life’s challenges. Remember, conflicts can be opportunities for growth and understanding.